Blues dancing, by itself, is great fun. But what makes it truly great, in my opinion, is the incredibly open and welcoming culture associated with it. You’d be hard-pressed to find more accepting, friendly people, in my opinion.
People in clubs, on the other hand, are often very hard to approach. If you don’t have someone you know with whom to dance, you have to try to approach a stranger. This is difficult on multiple levels. First, many girls simply don’t want to dance with people they don’t know. Can’t say I blame them; lots of guys at clubs can be pretty sketchy. Then there’s the whole issue of the music. Particularly, the volume of the music. If you actually want to try and verbalize a request to dance…good luck. In almost any club, it’s far too loud to have any kind of spoken conversation.
Generally speaking, the method for dancing with a girl in a club is to start grinding up on her. This, to me, is a) not very fun, and b) super rude. I’ve tried extending my hand in a “do you want to dance?” gesture, but most of the time I am met with blank stares. It’s not understood that an extended hand is an invitation to dance.
This leads to another reason I’ve so fallen in love with blues dancing. I’ve seldom met anyone at a blues dance who doesn’t legitimately want to dance. You ask someone to dance by extending your hand and actually asking, “would you like to dance?”. It’s a request they can actually hear over the music! And the answer is almost always something like, “Sure, I’d love to.” And everyone is more than happy to help beginners get comfortable on the dance floor. After dealing with the club culture, it’s incredibly refreshing.
You can also have very nice chats both while dancing and taking a break. The music isn’t so loud that it overpowers conversation. This makes blues dancing great for both dancing and meeting fun, new people.
If you have any thoughts, questions, or experiences of your own you’d like to share, feel free to post a comment! I’d love to hear what you have to say!